There's nothing wrong with being iffy about your HIV status.

But how can you communicate that to your partners?

Most of us have been iffy about our HIV status at some point. Of course, telling somebody flat out "I'm iffy" might catch some off-guard. But it could also lead to a deeper conversation about when you were both last tested and what kind of sex you're after.

Easier ways to talk about it: 

• Talk about your comfort level before hooking up.  Most of us have a gut feeling about what's acceptable to ourselves and what's not. There's nothing wrong with being direct about what you want. In fact, a lot of guys like knowing what gets you off and talking about it can be a hot way to get revved up.
• Know your patterns.  If you know it's difficult to talk about HIV status and condoms, think up a few sentences in advance to help you break the ice.
• Use the information you have.  Most guys who cruise online already put their status in their profile. Asking a guy when he was last tested can help you both make informed choices.
• Think about disclosing first.  Tell him where you're at with your HIV status, however confident you are, go for it and spill the details, including what your comfort level is. It's probably the one time when it's better to be premature. Your partner will probably be really relieved that you broke the ice and got the conversation started.